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Every conversation about a woman who is abused ends up the same way. Why doesn’t she leave? Did she communicate with the guy and specifically tell him she does not want to be abused? Men aren’t mind-readers you know!
Even worse is that because porn is normalized and the majority of porn features a man being violent to a woman, there’s an expectation that hurting a woman during sex is normal. If you’re constantly immersed in a world where most sex features a man being violent to a woman, and you additionally live in a culture rooted in patriarchy and white supremacy, it’s easy to see how people might come to see violent sex (with women as the recipient of the violence) as something normal, that women need to explicitly opt out of.
This is compounded with other marginalized people as well, the kind of pornography…